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One common characteristic among most submissives is that they crave guidance and direction especially in the bedroom. Until reading this you would probably believe that you were communicating sufficiently to your submissive. Submissive woman want to be given direction on what to do during sex.

They want guidance on how to please you as well as what your expectations are of them. During the vanilla days LK would do as she pleased with herself with little guidance from me during sex. If she wanted to place her hands on my back, run her fingers through my hair, or change positions she would simply do it without soliciting me. One of the first things that changed for me during my journey was my mindset towards her actions during sex. This was not a willful or deliberate change but rather a natural sentiment. I no longer wanted her to take any control in the bedroom.

I wanted total Dominance and now I expected it! Little Kaninchen felt the same as I did, she desired for me to be in control, especially in the bedroom. This behavior change was on both of our parts and was an instinctual reaction to our new roles. Both of our desires had changed. Whether your submissive is doing exactly as you desire or you want her to do or change something you need to clearly communicate that to her.

Begin with her limbs, what is she doing with them? If she is holding onto something already, like the headboard, tell her not to let go of it until instructed to do so. Give her commands that express what you would like her to do. In the past your submissive would not have required this direction during play.

Do not underestimate her need for direction now. This simple task may prove more difficult than it appears. After you have mastered the concept of directing your submissive try incorporating other elements into your directions. Include additional elements besides just her limbs. Direct her eyes, her head, her mouth, her sex, her entire body. Another goal to work toward when directing your submissive would be to integrate more than one direction into one single command. Try to limit this to no more than three direction for each command.

Measure your growth! No two relationships are going to be exactly the same. The phrase work smarter, not harder. What does it really mean? And how can we apply it to our everyday lives. I broken this topic down into three easy steps or guidelines. While in this submissive position the submissive kneels with her thighs…… What happened next is what really turns me on during scenes like this. The notion to push her shoulders back which will effectively drive her breasts directly into the teeth of the leather falls as they continue to thrust relentlessly on her.

I could remember how I felt during the beginning of my Dominance and submission journey and how difficult it was to develop the true confidence. Not the light hearted, sure I am a Dom attitude, but rather the knowing it, feeling it. Being confident that I would do the right thing in the right moment. You must be logged in to post a comment.

Again…another great post! Thank you for touching on a subject that I struggle with. I agree that it is easier said than done.. Thanks again!! I understand that you have been under the weather recently… I hope that you feel better soon! The key to most challenges is to embrace the struggle and realize that with each struggle you will gain confidence and knowledge and with that, the struggle will be less and less as you progress along your journey. And when that anxiety is taken away from her, she can allow herself to more fully submit and everything is that much better.

During vanilla sex she has probably never mentioned this issue to you before. During vanilla sex it probably wasnt an issue…. My immediate answer was to practice on a female manikin — but then, how easy is it to get hold of one? Nevertheless, my point? That time for reflection as well as deeper connection. Sex used as an ultimatum to get what one wants. In the context of the post, the author was referring primarily to women weaponizing sex, historically going back throughout history within a Patriarchal society.

There are eighths that make up the fourths AND the whole. Make sense? Otherwise, the whole sooner or later collapses. Nonetheless, I liked when she was blindfolded because it sort of set me free to play without being observed, judged or evaluated mostly by myself. I think the blindfold sort of closed our eyes to who we were and allowed us to play. The blindfold allows that element of anonymity and provides you with the security of not having all eyes on you, so to speak….

Great read, and best of all it works. So tonight I decided to focus. Her manicure is fresh, and I know she loves when I appreciate it, so with every new position she took, I made sure to direct her hands to be where I could appreciate her nails. Whether she realized it or not, the effect was clear. She went deeper into subspace and had more orgasms than any other short scene we have done in a long time. Thanks for the great advice! Thank you for the feedback regarding your personal experience. Looking back at my journey I would say that most of my actions throughout our vanilla relationship have been close to desired but without doubt it is the finer details that have the most dramatic effects.

Truly had no idea this was required in my relationship… that having a sub as a wife requires more direction and leadership…. Rather it is the directions and control of the Dom that allows my sub wife to actually let go and fall into what she really wants and needs. And yet at the same time I remember being frustrated because I wanted to say more, demand more, but was afraid to do so.

Ignorance is certainly not bliss. Excellent information and insight! Another great post. I would put this in your top 10 blogs for sure. Something every new Dom should read. Communication is vital to any successful relationship. This was a good read for someone like myself as well as the new husdom. This is the first time i have read this. What a great read it was. Very direct and clear information. This is most helpful. Thank you Mr Fox. Fox, Thank you for the well thought out article. I found your site a few days ago and found your marriage situation very familiar.

It is my pleasure sir. You will find that my personal situation has resonated with most of the members here in one way or another. You may find many similarities to much of the membership. Thank you for your comment… I had actually forgotten all about writing this post.

But you are correct it was one of the first realizations that I had made during my journey. It was actually realized by communicating with lk. It became apparent that the status quo of the past was no longer going to be sufficient for our new journey. I later found out, through, downtime, that she was always left wondering if what she was doing was appropriate. This little bit of unsureness took just a little bit of her focus off of the moment.

She was a little in her own mind making her not fully in the scene. By giving lk simple commands throughout the scene, it removed any insecurities she had whether or not she was pleasing me…. Please note: This action will also remove this member from your connections and send a report to the site admin. Please allow a few minutes for this process to complete.

This is about directing your submissive during sex! Little Kaninchen discontinued any initiative during sex and I wanted her to do only what I instructed of her. Directing Your Submissive! Related Articles. Like this: Like Loading To continue reading you will need to register. Responses Cancel reply You must be logged in to post a comment.

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